General background about deliveries
My eldest brother's name is A R Raman, next brother is A R Krishnan and the third senior brother is late A R Subramanian. Subramanian was born, according to my knowledge, at Cherukunnu, mother's maternal grand parents house where mother's mother was staying. Traditionally ladies will go to the place where their mothers are staying about 2 -3 months before expected delivery and stay for about 3 months after delivery. This is to take care of the pregnant lady during the final stage of delivery and after delivery to help rejuvenate the lady. In the world the best love as the love of mother and the daughter before and after delivery can be as safe possible only at mother's place. Of course things are changing due to the concept of nuclear module of family system.
Birth of A R Subramanian
My brother Subramanian was born at Cherukunnu. He was not very much interested in studies. So he studied only up to 5th or 7th standard. My father had a hotel in Parvathipuram a small town in Andhra near to the border of Orissa, present Odhisha. He was in need of assistance for the running of the hotel in addition to the hotel workers he engaged. So brother Subramanian went with father to help father in running the Ganesh Vilas 'Iyer' hotel at Parvathipuram. It would have been an extremely trying time for the brother as father was an extremely short tempered and dictatorial person. I had to be with father to run our family business for 2 years and had to just run away to Bombay to my brothers there. So I can imagine the difficulty undergone by brother Subramanian during his long stay with father. All of us brothers and sisters are indebted to brother Subramanian as part of his life was a sacrifice for our growing upbringing.
Brother's help to father and family
After completion of the studies of all of us father decided to close down his hotel and come back to native village Arangotukara/Ezhumangad and settle down permanently there. Brother Subramanian would not have been able to run the hotel single handed hence he also came with father to the native village. By this time father has changed the condition of poverty from the family, repaired his ancestral house Chakkali Madham; bought a plot adjacent to the ancestral house and renovated the thatched house there to make it look identical to that of the ancestral house; bought a plot of land and built a house identical to that of his own and ancestral one for his only sister; and bought enough land property to cultivate paddy for the rice requirements of the family and dry land for growing coconuts and other fruits bearing trees like mango and jack fruit etc. He knew that none of us may be able to look after the landed properties and took upon himself the task of cultivating the same. Since it is a job for one person to supervise the workers, he wanted some occupation and income for brother Subramanian. He opened a shop with the name 'A R Raman brothers' in our family building on the road side in the market area of the village and gave its charge to brother. Since agriculture was not a full time occupation and is seasonal he was helping brother to run the shop.
Brother's marriage
The brother's marriage was done with Smt Ponnammal (alias Parvathy?), the eldest daughter of one of our cousin sisters from Thrissur. Immediately after the brother's marriage father went to Bombay to spend some time with his elder sons there and to give some free time to brother Subramanian. My brother Subramanian was a simple and innocent person who can be easily cheated. Many people from the village used to buy provisions, cloths and stationary items from our shop giving an impression that the money will be paid shortly but never sued to pay for the things purchased. On the contrary they used to fool him further and continue to buy items further. After about 3-4 months father returned thinking that the brother will require help and he was not also happy spending his time idle in Bombay without doing any worthwhile activities. When he came back to native village he found the business in a bad shape because of the policy of allowing credits to the buyers. Similarly the agriculture and other produces were also being taken by the villagers and others and father known for his temper had a severe quarrel with the brother Subramanian and made him to get out of the house. In the meantime brother had a daughter, Seetha.He with his wife and the small daughter went to his in laws place at Thrissur. There he had to listen to taunts of being like a parasite to the wife's family. So went away without telling anyone as to where he is going. Later it was understood that he went to the hotel which he was helping father to manage and tried his hand in the business first and then as a servant to another person but due to his simple and innocent nature he had to return to his in laws place. Sister in law became pregnant and delivered a male child A S Raman. After some months of birth of Raman, father agreed to his son, daughter-in-law and children to return and join him.
My stint in business
During the time when brother was banished from house father was finding it difficult to manage both the agriculture and business. So he wrote to the 3 brothers at Bombay explaining the situation and requesting for help by one of us to go to village to help him to run the business so that the invested money is not lost. All my 3 elder brothers at Bombay were employed and I was there to study. They were in a dilemma as to what to do? Since I was not a bright person and was not interested in academic studies, suggested that I can go to native place to take care of the business. Accordingly I went there and took charge of the business which was in a bad shape. Father had taught me some business tricks by which I could improve the business and also build up a reputation that the items are good quality and the price is very reasonable. In the meantime without affecting the business I was organising a sports club with the young people of the village who are mostly students in upper primary and high schools. The sports club used to organise event of competition in many sports and game activities with the sports clubs and school teams of the entire district. Father does not like games and sports. Besides he felt that I might be spending money from the business to the sports activities and there used to be frictions in spite of my trying to convince that I was not spending any money for the sports and was neglecting the business as the improvement and reputation of the business is an evidence to this fact. He was not convinced and started harassing me. I wrote to my brothers at Bombay informing that I cannot continue with father any longer and I would like to come back to Bombay not for studies but for a job. The brothers replied agreeing to my suggestions. The letter went to father and it was a shock to him as he was not knowing about my correspondence. He tried to persuade me using all methods. Anyway in the meantime the brother Subramanian had also come back. So went ahead with my plan to go to Bombay. There on the very next day I went for a walk in interviews and got a job.
Death of mother
In the meantime we lost our mother who was seriously ill for about a month and was under treatment in a hospital in Thrissur when my last sister is having her home. She died of leukaemia (blood cancer). During her illness the sister, brother in law and our cousin brother A K Narayanan and some other villagers were very helpful to father and brother Subramanian.
Death of father
Subsequently after some time father also had a brief illness related to breathing which now I feel is the old age problem of organs dis-functioning one by one. Father was feeling that it will not be possible to maintain the agriculture due to the changed political situation in Kerala and was in the process of winding up the agriculture and business which was again in shambles. His idea was to dispose off the assets and convert it into bank accounts and distribute to the us, his children keeping an amount sufficient to take care of his needs till his life time so that he need not depend on any body including any one of us. He just started the process and in the meantime he passed away. Then all of us gave power of attorney to the brother Subramanian to manage the properties. Some of the properties were lost due to the political situations during father's time itself and some others during brother's time. He also passed away in the meantime leaving his wife 2 daughters and 2 sons - Seetha, Raman, Krishnan and Lakshmi. Seetha the eldest daughter is married to K S Ramachandran and is settled down in Jaipur, Rajasthan and they have a daughter and a son. Raman is with his mother in the house at the village and is married and have 2 children. Krishnan is also married and is at Uadipur or some nearby place in Rajasthan and his wife is in the family way. Lakshmi is married to Vaidyanathan a textile designer and are at Navsari near Surat in Gujarat. They have one daughter and a son.
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